AUTHOR: M. DATE: 8:34:00 PM ----- BODY:

Well, here 'tis... the adoption blog. We're doing this partly because lots of people in our lives are curious to know about this process, and partly because we thought it would be fun to write down all the little things in this process which will probably be forgotten somewhere down the line, so when our child asks how we got him or her we'll have a lot to share. Last night we met with A Red Thread, an agency in Norwood. This is our third meeting with an agency, and we've talked to a bunch of people on the phone, read a lot on the internet, and gotten lots of informational packets. It's completely overwhelming. Even two days ago I was convinced we would be old and gray before we could figure out how to sort through all this. The good news: in the past five years since I've known I. I have never known her to be wrong with a gut instinct. A few days ago she reported that her gut said that we were going to go with A Red Thread, and it seems that she was right. After our last two meetings, and after every phone conversation with folks from other adoption agencies, it felt like putting together a coherent sentence in English was too much. It's so much information, and there are so many ways of doing this, and it's so %^&*)^&()* expensive... and we're talking about becoming parents! Plus, we're girls, and we're married; this complicates things just a bit more (no kidding). We can't do international adoption, unless we're willing to lie, which could jeopardize the whole thing sometime down the road, and of course would mean we'd have to lie to a social worker about our whole lives for the three months or so it will take us to do the home study. I have no problem lying to the INS, but presenting ourselves to a social worker and an adoption agency as other than who we are feels like the adoption equivalent of poking a hole in the diaphragm. After we met with Leah, the director of A Red Thread, we felt so calm. Suddenly the process has started to make sense. She was also the first person to give us good news: we can set our own parameters around the expense, she'll help us figure out how to stick with those parameters, and she doesn't think we're going to have to wait very long for a baby once we're ready. This really feels like the right choice for us right now. Off we go.

-------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: FemiKnitMafia COMMENT-DATE:11:05 AM COMMENT-BODY:Welcome, welcome, welcome to blogland and to parentland. I'm an official subscriber now and psyched to read about your progress. --------