AUTHOR: M. DATE: 10:37:00 PM ----- BODY:

I. thinks I am a big nerd. She's right about most things (case in point: I am writing this at 10:18 on a Friday night with the company of my cats and some white wine). In this case, she mainly thinks I'm a big nerd because of the relatively recent blogging habit (though I may have given her other reasons to think that too, but she's not sayin'). But really. I started this blog with the combined encouragement of our adoption social worker, who suggested that "an email list or some such" would be a good way to keep our loved ones involved in the process, and Femiknit Mafia, a flesh-and-blood friend and obsessive blogger in her own right. After writing in a vacuum for a while, it occured to me that this whole thing is a little like real life: you don't make any friends if you stay in your room all the time. Can you tell I'm an only child? But what a good outlet this is - not just my writing, which generally vacillates between completely mundane and wildly obsessive - but also the things that other people have to say. Good, smart, thoughtful things, many of them about transracial adoption, which is where I'm focused at the moment, but many about the way the world works and the way people treat each other and all the good things that make a person keep putting one foot in front of the other. I've been having a conversation this week with a co-worker who is also waiting for an adoption placement about the wierd and fascinating transracial adoption issues that are being talked about over at American Family. I've loved having this connection with her, and it occured to me that there are very few people in my real life who can stand to talk about these issues so much. Let's face it: I don't think there's anyone who can obsess or overthink adoption issues like a pre-adoptive or newly adoptive parent, or a birthparent. So, for all of you who've been leaving me those little supportive notes that make my day, those of you who are just hanging out and lurking (I'd love to know who you are but I can live with the lurking), and those of you who are hearing from me in your own comments, THANKS. This is good stuff. I had no idea what good stuff it would be. I'd keep writing but I think I might have actually said something.

-------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Anonymous COMMENT-DATE:1:44 PM COMMENT-BODY:Hello. :)

I'm Erin, partner to J and momma to baby James, and I'm psyched to have found you! James came to us through open independent transracial adoption, and therefore blogs covering transracial adoption and two mom families are right up my alley.

We're in Maine, and adoption was our first choice to build our family. Feel free to drop me a note if you have any interest in talking -- you're in New England somewhere, right? Mass?

Be well, and again -- so glad ot have come across your blog! --------