AUTHOR: M. DATE: 10:15:00 PM ----- BODY:

Things are looking up! We finally got an answer we wanted from a lawyer who has done this. Thank you to all of you who mentioned second-parent adoption back in our home state. You're right, this happens all the time - except that, ironically, it's much more complicated because we're married. Even though most other states don't recognize the marriage, if the state we're adopting from knows we're married in MA, they could refuse to approve the interstate compact because married couples, by law, adopt simultaneously - which isn't allowed by the state that has to approve the compact. Please, take a moment to untie the knot I've just tied you in. Anyway, I think we've figured out how to do it. We've found someone we trust to do it for us. The agency is busting their butts, our social worker rocks, and we knocked a handful of smaller but important stumbling blocks off the list today. Our profile is winging its' way via overnight mail to the parents, who already have most of the information that's in it. More to come when we have more to report.

-------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: carrym COMMENT-DATE:10:46 PM COMMENT-BODY:Oh yay!!! I am sending postive thoughts your way...

I just got done reading your last post, whew! what a rollercoaster, I wish I could offer some pearls of wisdom, but all I have to say is that it will all be worth it...everything always is when it comes to the kiddos (hope that doesn't sound too trite) -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Anonymous COMMENT-DATE:10:53 PM COMMENT-BODY:Whew! What a roller coaster indeed! If you are what the birthparents need and they are what you need, then I hope hope hope that things start running smoothly for everyone involved.

Let's hear it for great ethical adoption agencies and social workers!! -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Anonymous COMMENT-DATE:11:21 PM COMMENT-BODY:Oh my god ! I can't imagine how nuts you must feel. We only knew our profile was looked at once (they passed on us). When Noelle and K chose us we heard after the fact. This just must be pins and needles. I am so thinking good thoughts for everyone. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: LilySea COMMENT-DATE:11:41 PM COMMENT-BODY:Fingers crossed (and toes, etc.) over here.
Keep us posted!!!!!! -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Erin COMMENT-DATE:10:02 AM COMMENT-BODY:I've got everything crossed and double crossed for you all, and I'll keep your family, this maybe-baby and her/his parents in my thoughts...

Thanks for letting us follow along... I'm totally reliving my son's adoption through these posts. :) -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: susan COMMENT-DATE:10:19 AM COMMENT-BODY:Fingers and toes crossed here, too!! -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Anonymous COMMENT-DATE:1:26 PM COMMENT-BODY:Good luck! Glad things are looking up, what a mess and what a stressful several days for you! -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Clementine COMMENT-DATE:1:41 PM COMMENT-BODY:WOW, M.! That's so exciting! I'm thinking good thoughts for you guys. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Hashbrown COMMENT-DATE:8:22 AM COMMENT-BODY:M,
My fingers are crossed for you and your wife. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Genevieve Hinson COMMENT-DATE:1:29 PM COMMENT-BODY:So exciting! Keeping my fingers crossed for you (and sending good adoption energy your way too!) -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Anonymous COMMENT-DATE:10:08 PM COMMENT-BODY:I've been lurking a lot and am really hoping that you can make this all work. How exciting that you might be parents this month! --------