AUTHOR: M. DATE: 10:20:00 AM ----- BODY:

A mother reveals 70-year-old secret - The Boston Globe: "A mother reveals 70-year-old secret Adoptee now seeks truth of his past "David Adams helped his 101-year-old mother Bessie Oldham with her sweater while visiting her nursing home. Oldham recently told her son he was adopted more than 70 years ago. (Globe Staff Photo / Suzanne Kreiter) " Holy cow. This makes me want to bawl, for both mothers and for their son.

-------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Anonymous COMMENT-DATE:11:05 AM COMMENT-BODY:Wow, I hope this story helps connect him to his birth family. Even if his mom isn't still alive , maybe he has siblings or cousins. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: art-sweet COMMENT-DATE:2:20 PM COMMENT-BODY:Awful. And also not an update, ahem. You could also just email me and then I'll shut up ;-) -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: FemiKnitMafia COMMENT-DATE:8:18 PM COMMENT-BODY:You probably won't like this, but I'm not sure why this is such a tradegy. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Sabrina COMMENT-DATE:1:07 AM COMMENT-BODY:me too femiknitmafia.... Why are bio ties so important? That woman was his mother.. the only thing she didn't do is carry him in utero. She DID carry him through the rest of his life...

If I were told today that I was adopted, I can't say I'd really care all that much. I love my parents to death. It doesn't matter to me one little bit that I was birthed by my mother, just that I was raised by her. I do hope he finds peace though. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: M. COMMENT-DATE:7:19 AM COMMENT-BODY:Femiknit Mafia, Mama Beans:
I agree - this woman is his mother, no question. But I do believe he had a right to know that his biological family was different than what he understood it to be, and not to learn this at the age of 70.

And I feel for his mom for carrying an enormous secret for decades, and for his first mom for the circumstances that led her to the point where she relinquished a baby and never heard another thing about whether he lived or died.

For me the tragedy is that something so huge had to be such a deep secret. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Poor_Statue COMMENT-DATE:9:18 PM COMMENT-BODY:It's really traumatic for the adopted person.

This came up in my adolescent psychology class this weekend. he professor has a background in everything and has an MSW. She thought it was absolutely horrible.

I had to hold my tongue because nobody there knows that I'm at all conncted to adoption. --------