AUTHOR: M. DATE: 10:05:00 PM ----- BODY:

I didn't expect that those last few lines would set off such a firestorm. Today was not the day. My fuse is very, very short. Bryan, respectful disagreement is welcome here. Five comments calling into question my fundamental ability to make the choices that everyone should be able to make is over my limit. I hope you won't find me rude when I say: thanks for playing, game over. Dad, Art-Sweet, Shirky, Ms. Florida, Femiknit Mafia: a big hug to each of you. I hope I have a chance to return the favor. It means a lot. We are still fighting the legal fight. Everything else is in place, but your guess is as good as mine as to whether this adoption can happen. We thought we had resolved it, but we were wrong. The state where the baby will be born plumb hates us queers. I'm sick of fighting for my family. I'm not done - not even close - but I'm sick of it.

-------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Dawn COMMENT-DATE:10:53 PM COMMENT-BODY:I don't even know what to say. I've just been wringing my hands over at bloglines. I'm so sorry that the world is so damn backwards and that you're bearing the brunt of that in this struggle to build your family. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Anonymous COMMENT-DATE:11:16 PM COMMENT-BODY:What the F??? I am sorry you had to deal with that, especially with all the other things you have on your plate right now. As my own M would say, Stupid Stupidheads! I am sending all my good juju to help you get through these trying times. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Anonymous COMMENT-DATE:12:19 AM COMMENT-BODY:Oy! M, I haven't been commenting lately but want you and I. to know that this family in Denver is rooting hard for your sweet family. Just caught up on the last few postings, and I am broken-hearted over it all. Take good care of yourselves, girls. There have got to be good things a'comin... -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: carrym COMMENT-DATE:1:39 AM COMMENT-BODY:Yeah, tired is a good way to put it. But glad to hear you're not giving up the fight.

I have to admit I got to have my kids the "easy" way, but now that I have them I still have the fight, parenting, loving, living, none of that should have to be a battle...

Good on you for the dialog on the last post. I would have gone ballistic and become a bit less...um...elequent (or is that elephant)? -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Bryan White COMMENT-DATE:2:03 AM COMMENT-BODY:m wrote:
"Five comments calling into question my fundamental ability to make the choices that everyone should be able to make is over my limit."

Hmmm. That was the very point at issue, I believe.
Regardless, I shall take my leave as requested.

Peace. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: FemiKnitMafia COMMENT-DATE:9:17 AM COMMENT-BODY:Well said.
You have a strong community here in blogland and in real-time too. We're circling the wagons. Feel the love? -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Foxxy One COMMENT-DATE:9:23 AM COMMENT-BODY:I just wanted to say I'm sorry there are more wrenches being through into the wheels. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: J COMMENT-DATE:9:56 AM COMMENT-BODY:The fact that you're dealing with all this crap is....unfair, painful, and just plain awful.

I hope that the team of cheerleaders rooting you on (myself included,) the familial support that you've obviously got (your dad gets it, and that's awesome) and the desired result of a real, live, baby of your own are enough reasons to keep you fighting. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Clementine COMMENT-DATE:9:58 AM COMMENT-BODY:M., what happened with Bryan sucks--I'm sorry you had to go through it. And I'm even sorrier that another state is giving you hell for your legal marriage. Petunia and I are rooting for you and I., and we're kepping you, the baby, and the baby's parents in our thoughts. Hugs from Worcester! -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: nina beana COMMENT-DATE:3:34 PM COMMENT-BODY:sending hugs. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Anonymous COMMENT-DATE:12:42 AM COMMENT-BODY:On vacation, not supposed to be on the internet, but quickly. Love,peace and power. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: My Baby Ain't White COMMENT-DATE:9:25 AM COMMENT-BODY:Just throwing in my two cents to say how frustrating it is to see such an archaic train of thought stil running rampant throughout our country. And to see my friends suffer because of it is heartbreaking. Hugs to you, friend.

Your friends in tolerance,
~Scott, Karen and Gwen -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: Anonymous COMMENT-DATE:10:52 AM COMMENT-BODY:Sorry you're going through so much in this process. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you both. It's so frustrating that there are so many obstacles. And the obstacles are just people being pig-headed, and bigoted, and just plain wrong. Yippee, welcome to 2006 in America. -------- COMMENT-AUTHOR: wen COMMENT-DATE:11:54 AM COMMENT-BODY:I'm so sorry to hear that you're being discriminated against. I don't have kids, but I am engaged (to another woman) and so I know the "hey, you can't do that because you're queer") feeling. Yuck. --------